Dating Failures

I had been telling my friends, my records of dates, never more than 2 times with a same guy. What a sad story… been asking myself why, why, why??

Later, I came across this article in the web, telling gals why their dates failed and I begin to understand why mine failed too:

1) Eager follow up after first date

Well, this is not my fault anyway, being forced by my mom to follow up with the guy after the first date. I also tell myself, why not? No harm trying… BIG MISTAKE….

Guy is a funny animal, when you don’t bother about he, he tends to love you more… funny huh… feel like slapping them…

One of my close girlfriends also shared her experience in follow up with the dates. None of them is successful. Thus, both of us come to a conclusion, no matter you follow up or not after the first date, if the guy does not interest in you, he will never call. Following up with guys, it just made ourselves (applicable to girls only) looks uglier…

So guys… please make your move, ok??

So, I have learned my mistake, never follow up after the first date and it ends up the guy contacted me… see?

2) Criticizing… would not make things perfect

Ummm… this is not from my experience (of coz… I am such an adorable girl…). I am speaking from my observation. Guys like gals that are soft, criticize will scare the guys away.

3) Romantically Idealising Men

In Chinese saying, 男人不坏，女人不爱. I truly agreed. I don’t really like 乖乖仔myself. Mulut lagi manis, lagi suka. Damn… why love make some body so insensible?? I won’t say this lead to relationship failure ultimately. But, 往往，事实是那么的残酷, and normally, people tends to wake up after marriage.

4) Obsessing on one guy too much

Undeniably, this is a direct hit for me. Been chasing and dreaming for that guy, but factually, he doesn’t treat me well at all. My sister has been telling me all the time. But what the heck, masuk telinga kiri, keluar telinga kanan. Never stayed in mind… sigh, love truly is blind….

The author of the article has suggested a solution, ie. to date several men at a time and give oneself a spectrum of choice. Good suggestion, will keep this in my mind, at least, it will free myself from torture of thinking too much unnecessarily.